Change Starts With You

To many people wait for circumstances or people around them to change and fail to recognize their own power in changing circumstances around them. In fact, individuals are the key to change in their lives and even the motivational force in change in those around them. Now make no mistake in thinking that you can change other people as they are also responsible for their own change. However, when you change it causes a trickle down effect that causes others to evaluate their choices in changing or stagnating.

One of my favorite sayings is by Nietzshe in which he stated "change is inevitable and those who resist change cause suffering in their own lives". When we are depressed, angry, anxious or unhappy in our circumstances we have a tendency to put responsibility on people and situations around us instead of make a cognitive choice to look at our negative feelings as a sign that it is time to take responsibility for modifying our situations and relationships.

I see it everyday in therapy where individuals complain, struggle, and lay waiting in the mess of their own muck not recognizing that they and they alone can pull themselves out of that ditch and not wait to be saved by someone else. This is also evident in patterns of repeating negative relationships, negative choices, and negative views that hinder individuals from pulling themselves up to higher ground and redefining their lives as they are the author of their lifes design. Negative thoughts and views have a tendency to multiply as it is a magnet that attracts the negative. On the other hand challenging your negative thoughts, reframing your negative views, and looking at trials as a refinement process causes empowerment and strength.

If you are waiting for change and not recognizing that you are the author of this change despite your circumstances and people in your life then you will be waiting and prolonging transformation that can occur in the present moment. If you are waiting for God to change your circumstances without acknowledging action first has to take place on your part then you are failing to recognize many teachings that point towards individuals being the precursor to change. Change begins with you and you alone. When you begin to challenge stagnation in your life then you will open the door to healing, restoration and transformation that will change you and in turn change every circumstance, situation, and relationship in your life.

What are you waiting for? Who are you waiting for? Why are you waiting? Wait and you will sink deeper and deeper into despair. Choose change and put it into action and you will create more fulfillment in your life than you thought possible.

Change starts with you and only you. Now what do you want to change?