The Worst Enemy "Fear"

Fear is truly the worst enemy that any individual can have working in their lives. Think about what you want most in your life at this moment. Why have you not taken steps towards that situation, that person, that change? Most of the time I hear as a therapist that the primary thing that holds individuals back in their lives is fear itself. I ask clients "If you were to take fear, doubt and uncertainty out of this equation how would you do things different at this moment in time?" Individuals who are asked this question smile and recognize that if they were able to eliminate fear then they would be able to step out faster in life and in lifes choices.

When you think about it fear is at the base of every negative aspect of our world. From racism, prejudice, stagnation, alienation, judgment, criticism, jealousy, mistrust, struggles to ask for help, share our feelings, our thoughts, and our dreams. If individuals could recognize that fear is to be looked in the face and defeated their lives would take off in a direction that they only dreamed of.

I know what I am talking about as I have not only led individuals to fight fear in their lives but as an individual myself have looked fear in the face many times. Once fear was defeated in my life as well as other lives I have seen positive changes that begin to take place so fast it appears supernatural.

My challenge to you is to think about dreams, thoughts, and desires that you contemplate but think are unachievable. Ask yourself if fear is the enemy that is holding you back from reaching for that thing you have only dreamed of. If fear is the enemy remember fear is only a thought. Thoughts can be changed and progress is in reach if you only reach out and take hold.

Fear may be the enemy but belief is the antidote. Change your thoughts and your life will change. It is time for you to step out of fear and move forward.

Have you ever considered counseling but didnt know what to expect?

Counseling can be a scary experience as you go in for the first appointment and speak to a complete stranger about intimate details in your life, however it is one of the most rewarding experiences once you step out and give it a try. The first session is the hardest step to take in changing your life but once you take this first step you will find that counseling can be a unique experience to have time to freely express yourself, your ideas, your thoughts and your feelings with someone who will not judge, criticize or chastise you. Many clients find that first appointment to be scary but once you have met your therapist for the first time the following appointments can become rewarding as you form a therapeutic relationship with someone who is interested in helping you improve your life. I tell my clients that everyone can benefit from a counselor because it is like going to the spa for your mind. If you notice many times when you attempt to talk to family or friends they have a tendency to begin to tell you about stories regarding themselves and the focus is slowly taken off of you. Therapy is all about you, the focus is on you, and you can find out more about yourself by talking through your struggles and challenges in therapy than anywhere else.

Many clients fear that they will not be in charge of their therapy yet they are. Therapy can be brief therapy, 6-8 sessions, or longer depending on what the clients goals are for the therapy process. Going to therapy does not mean that all individuals have severe mental health issues as many individuals come in to talk about adjustment issues, financial struggles, relationship challenges or life goals.

If you have considered therapy but have been concerned about what to expect I hope this article helps encourage you to reach out and find a helping professional near you. The National Directory of Counselors is a great site online that you can look at to explore therapists across the United States.

Stacia Maloy, MS LPC Brittany Park Counseling